November: Heather Hardesty: Thankfulness

November 2017 Blog
Thankfulness
By Heather Hardesty - Professional Mentor

Greeting to all!  This is the season of the year that I look forward to the most - Thanksgiving through Christmas.  I guess it's because the weather changes, the days get shorter and it's when we get to see all of our extended family.  It's also a time to reflect upon what we are thankful for.

So besides owning my own business, I get the honor of teaching kids from ages 2-12 during the week in various different settings. Every November I start class by asking each one of them what they are thankful for.  The answers range from predictable to downright adorable.  Some examples of what my students say (I am not making some of these up!)

- My mom and dad
- My dog
- My cat
- My horse
- Butterflys
- God
- My toys
- My bed
- My teacher
- Shoes
- Candy

This always brings a smile to my face and also makes me reflect on what I'm thankful for not just personally, but in my profession.  I would love to share with you things that I'm thankful for in my chosen profession.

1 - I'm thankful for trust.  I'm thankful everyday that my corporate office trusts my decisions regarding how I run my business.  I'm thankful for other professional teachers who see the value in sharing ideas and collaborating and trust that you will not use them in a negative way.  I'm thankful for the trust the parents put in me to teach their children weekly.  Trust is a hard thing to give people and it's even harder to keep.  I'm so very thankful I've earned the trust of those around me.

2 - I'm thankful for creative freedom - I'm thankful that I'm allowed to use my creative freedom in what I do.  With Kinderdance I do follow lesson plans, but I'm allowed to insert my own creative touches.  I'm always given complete freedom creatively with my classes outside of Kinderdance and I love to see what my students and I can create even if it's sometimes predictable or way out of the box.

3 - I'm thankful I can still dance - Let me explain what I mean.  I'm thankful I have the time and resources to go and train still at my older age.  I love to take class and be the student even if I'm 20 years or older than some of them.  I feel that my love for my profession will sustain longer if I keep training.  I always tell my family and students that as long as I can still move, I will still dance.  I'm also thankful that my 11 year old now thinks it's cool rather than being mortified by it.

4 - I'm thankful I can mentor others at the beginning of their journey.  I'm humbled, blessed and thankful for those that turn to me for advice on things dance related.  I was so thankful for my mentors growing up that I enjoy paying it forward.  I remember what it was like having a class of 15 kids ages 7-8 who I was convinced downed pixie sticks before coming to class and nothing I did classroom management wise helped.  I remember what it was like having a parent scream in your face for something they didn't read.  I remember what it was like growing a business (I still am growing).  I remember what all those things were like and I'm thankful to help others navigate through them.

5 - I'm thankful for a family that understands my crazy schedule.  I have a husband and a daughter who understand my schedule and never give me grief about it.  I'm so thankful for this!  It also makes me be more present when I'm not teaching, at a performance or marketing.

So as we enter into a busy holiday season I urge you to take a few minutes to sit down and reflect what you are thankful for.  Thank you for taking the time to read my November blog and may an abundant amount of blessings be bestowed upon you.

October: Heather Hardesty: Why aren't kids allowed to fail?

Heather Hardesty: Why aren’t kids allowed to fail?

Welcome to a new dance year everyone! Thank you TFDE for the honor of being a professional mentor again this year. I’m always so excited to start new classes full of eager students willing and eager to learn. I also love getting new dance clothes and dance shoes if I’m being honest.

A little bit about me for those of you who are new to the blogs. I am the current owner of Kinderdance Austin, Kinderdance Brazos County and Co-Owner of Kinderdance Collin County. I have taught for 25 years and currently teach children ages 2-12 through Kinderdance and as a staff member with Cedar Park Dance Company. I also direct a performance only dance group, Standing Ovations, at Cedar Park Dance Company. In my spare time I sing Soprano and choreograph for the Round Rock Community Choir and enjoy family time with my husband Dennis and my 11 year old daughter Hallie.

As excited as I am for new classes and the sweet faces of all the students in them, there is a growing trend that is weighting on my heart that I want to write about. Why are kids these days not allowed to fail?

The age of kids I teach are 2-12 years old. What I’m finding lately is that I have kids in class that will dissolve into tears if they can’t get a skill after the 1^st or 2^nd time and then sometimes they will completely shut down and not want to continue class after said skill. Why is it that when we were babies learning to walk we would spend all day pulling ourselves just to walk a few steps and fall to our bottoms only to get right back up and try again? What changed from that moment to the present day? Why are kids so hard on themselves when it comes to learning something new? I have a few theories I would like to explore.

Theory #1 – The pressure put upon kids from their own parents. Now I’m not knocking parents or parenting style in any way, but I do think parents tend to put unnecessary stress upon kids. I’m talking about parents who are constantly glaring through the window. The body language that portrays to the kid is “I’m watching, so you better do good”. I also think that parents tend to be quick to critique children when they didn’t pick up something fast enough. Instead of saying “How did class go? Did you have fun?”, I hear some parents tell kids “Why did you turn the wrong way in that ____ move”? Or “Why where you not listening to the teacher”. I understand as a parent, I am one to an 11 year old, that you want your kids to do well in their activity. You want them to excel – I get it! I think there needs to be a shift in language. I think it’s very important as a parent or teacher to tell kids that you take class to learn a style of dance and that doesn’t happen overnight. Everyone takes a different amount of time to learn new concepts – don’t compare your journey with the journey of others. As a parent or mentor we need to tell kids things like “Your passe in your turns looked so strong today – I can see your confidence is growing!” or “Your growth from last month to this month is wonderful – you do _____ skill so well.” Here’s the reality – most dancers will not dance after high school or college. Kids dance because it’s fun and for some it is something they want to pursue after high school or college, but it needs to come from the kid and not from the expectation a parent has on the child.

Theory #2 – Social Media. Kids these days have so much access to social media and because of that they see some unrealistic examples of where they should be skill wise. It’s hard when you see a 6 year old on America’s Got Talent hold her leg all the way to her head or busting out a triple turn. When you are a young kid you see things like that and tend to expect that when you walk into a dance class that in a few short months you should be doing the same. Kids then begin putting unrealistic expectations on themselves at that point. I really wish with all these posts there was a blurb that said “Featured dancer has danced ___ number of years and currently takes ___ number of hours a week”. Kids don’t naturally look at videos or Instagram and say “Wow, they must take 12 hours of dance and started at age 2”. It’s up to the keeper of that child’s social media to have a conversation with the child about what all went into that result they are seeing. I think social media can be a great thing and those posts can serve as motivation or goals – that is perfectly healthy. What isn’t healthy is a child that beats themselves up because they are not as good as the 8 year old on YouTube. Again, everyone has their own journey and no two journeys are the same.

So what can we do to change this narrative? What can we say differently that will give kids the confidence and the okay to fail and have the determination to try again next week? I think when we can answer these questions successfully we will have fewer kids in class that will dissolve into tears or shut down.

October: Angela Hayes: Greetings in many forms

Angela Hayes: Danceable Thoughts for TFDE
October, 2017

Let's start the first of our conversations with the topic of "Greetings."

I should quickly introduce myself. I'm Angela, retired from teaching in the public school system after 30 years. Most of those years were spent at Dulles High School as the Director of the Dulles Dolls. I've been dancing since I was 5 years old. I grew up in a ballet-based studio and went on to study at TCU. I received my teacher certification training at TWU. Over the years I've been a workshop presenter for many organizations and I have written several versions of curriculum for high school dance programs. My passion is giving students' first opportunities to interact in the world of dance. I love both ends of the spectrum: the beginners and the extremely advanced students. I call my post-teaching career business,

Danceable Thoughts. I love discussing everything from setting up a program to new approaches to choreography.

So let me offer you a few thoughts about "Greetings" in dance education!

I sat through many a staff development session with folks telling me to "meet and greet" my students at the door. I will admit that this was something I never fully achieved at 100% because it just wasn't realistic. I will never discourage this practice. In fact, I think this is a worthy, and lofty, and necessary goal for teachers of all types. Although as dance teachers I think we can redefine for what and where "greetings" are all about. I want to transform the vision of these greetings from school hallway to dance space.

As dancers, our greetings are not verbal, they are kinesthetic. We learn from the earliest experiences in class that we must communicate readiness. Body awareness is something we project from the moment we step in front of our students, our audiences. With dignity and a discerning eye, we might stroll to the front of the class to inspect the troop of our dancing soldiers who wait "at attention." There are those times when we stand eerily still, the pack leader among our apex dancing predators, anxious for the cue to pounce into performance. And then there are those mornings when we are the roost keeper, just doing our frantic best to herd the chickens. Every one of these roles is familiar.

The practical tip of the day is to create a non-verbal, non-negotiable way you and your students will communicate readiness and focus. You'll have to decide and rehearse it and give it time to develop into a reliable habit for your group. Don't think of it as "standing at attention." Give it a 21st century vocabulary and philosophy upgrade to something like "demonstrating your commitment."

I say that with the absolute least bit of sarcasm. Where a generation ago we were told to "stand at attention" and we complied out of deference to the rules and regulations... now we need to address a new way of thinking, so instead, ask your students to actively and purposefully focus their attentions and INTENTIONS to your group's goals for the day.

I picture myself and my peers in the early days in dance class as a little chicks, chirping and hopping around waiting enthusiastically for class to start. Miss Beverly would call our individual names and we would walk across to her, give and receive a little curtsey and then we'd take our place at the barre. To some this might seem limiting and entirely top deferential like the 16th century royal court customs from which so much of ballet derives. But to an impressionable little ballerina, this was my moment to shine and be recognized, face-to-face time with my dance idol. Now as a wise, old dance teacher, I wonder was it partly because it was a way to herd the chickens? Was this classroom management? Or was it the way she set the environment in which we learned to love and respect our class, our teacher, our art form?

Whatever purpose those first interactions were for, I classify the experience as a "Greeting" and one of the ways dance experiences trained my brain to focus. Undeniable, Transferable Life Skill.

My chickens, your chickens... I'm a chicken, you're a chicken. We're all hopping around enthusiastically. We've got a lot of energy to direct but not necessarily confine to a coop.

"Greetings" from me to you as you begin your own quest and explorations as future dance educator!